During a discussion on a local Facebook page last weekend, a parent expressed concerns about their teenage child feeling low and lonely during the long school holiday.

The community responded - in numbers - with valuable advice, emphasising what we at North Herts & Stevenage Centre for Voluntary Service have advocated for a while - that loneliness is both a personal and community issue and that many of the local community groups we help are there to support you and your family should you need them.

Recently, the topic of "summertime loneliness" and its impact on the community was discussed in this column, particularly concerning older people.

However, statistics reveal that 10-to-15-year-olds are the loneliest in the UK. But why this age group? It depends on the individual, but contributing factors may include things beyond an individual’s control like moving home or school, family changes (such as death or divorce), feeling different from peers, being bullied, experiencing illness, being neurodivergent, coping with academic pressures, and generally feeling ‘left out.’

Despite being surrounded by others, many young people still feel isolated, a situation exacerbated by the pandemic lockdowns, which also hindered the development of some social skills.

Research shows that loneliness peaks among those aged 18-24 and then declines afterward.

For parents, guardians, or young people looking to help build connections, confidence, and resilience, here’s some guidance shaped by support offered via the excellent charity YoungMinds (www.youngminds.org.uk).

While it relates to younger people, most is equally applicable to any age experiencing loneliness:

Embrace Solitude: Spending time alone, doing things you enjoy, can help build your confidence and self-compassion.

Acknowledge Individuality: Loneliness is a unique experience for everyone. Avoid comparing yourself to others (limit your use of social media), each journey is different.

Staying Connected: Maintain communication with friends and family; reconnect to those from your past.

Schedule your day: Planning daily activities can provide purpose and keep you engaged. Go outside: connect with nature, wildlife and other people.

Stay Active: Physical and mental activity through sports, hobbies, or learning something new can help pass the time, and help you grow, as can holistic practices like mindfulness, yoga, or meditation.

Helping Others: Volunteering can be a great way to connect – and help your community. Visit www.govolherts.org.uk to start your volunteering journey today!

Communicate: Open communication about emotions is key. Share how you feel with family, friends, or trusted adults and don’t hesitate to seek professional support if you need it.

For young people under 18, the Childline charity is available to talk confidentially about any issue. Call 0800 1111 or 116 111 or visit www.childline.org.uk.

The Samaritans are available for support at 116 123 anytime.

HertsHelp on 0300 123 4044 can provide independent support, guidance, and information to help you make the most of life, including finding groups and activities.